Psychotherapy and Counselling Southampton

BLOG POST – Winter 2017/18

TRAUMA – THE DO’s AND DON’T’s:

The first ‘do’ of all is simple. Take the drama out of trauma. From the victim’s view, it’s personal; it’s not a public circus. Trauma sufferers need calm. The last thing they need is everybody running around in a panic. TraumaAthough the major disasters hit the headlines, the fact remains that most traumatised people are the victims of so-called ‘minor’ events, (at least in terms of their newsworthiness). [Read more…]

BLOG POST – Autumn 2017

DEPRESSION – CAUSES AND CURES

Depression is not the same as feeling downhearted or sad. We all get seriously fed up or feel in a really down mood from time to time. That’s not depression; that’s life. DepressedHowever, sometimes those low moods won’t go away and we don’t bounce back. If those low moods start to seriously affect our lives, to cause us to behave noticeably differently, to interfere with our usual day-to-day functioning, then that’s when psychologists start to consider that we might be suffering from clinically significant depression. [Read more…]

BLOG POST – Summer 2017

UPGRADING THERAPIST TRAINING:

People depend on all sorts of professionals; doctors, solicitors, architects, nurses, teachers, dentists, accountants, and so on. The essential core of the public’s relationship with any type of professional advisor has to be trust. People need to be sure that these specialists know what they are doing. Training 2They certainly don’t expect them to be incompetent or to cause harm. This means that the underlying assumption, no matter what the area of expertise, is that professionals are properly trained and qualified. Usually this means that professional-level service providers have undergone a recognised program of higher education. High-level professionals normally have graduate and postgraduate level qualifications in their chosen fields. Even many of the intermediate-level professions, such as paramedics, police officers, journalists, etc. are rapidly moving towards becoming graduate-level occupations. [Read more…]

BLOG POST – Spring 2017

HOW TO CHOOSE A THERAPIST

This Blog follows on from my Winter posting ‘Danger – ‘Therapists at Work’! choose a therapist 2This time I am going to tell you how sort out the real deal from the frauds when you are looking for a psychotherapist or a counsellor.

So, how can you tell if a therapist is properly qualified? [Read more…]

BLOG POST Winter 2017

DANGER – ‘THERAPISTS AT WORK!’

For lots of people, feelings and sentiments are messy, embarrassing, and best avoided. When emotions are running high then it’s usually easier to send for the ‘ologists’ than to deal with the sufferers at first hand. That’s why the general public relies on therapists to mop up all that emotional ‘goo’. dangerAs a result, modern day counsellors and psychotherapists are all too often used as society’s emotional refuse collectors. [Read more…]

BLOG POST Nov/Dec 2016

THE SEASON TO BE MERRY?

According to the TV, the newspapers, and the displays in the shops, it’s the party season. Halloween, Fireworks Night, Thanksgiving, Hanukkah, Xmas, New Year, it’s all ‘fun, fun, fun’. Everybody’s cheery, everybody’s having a great time. sad-tiny-christmas-treeFriends are gathering. Families are merrily reuniting. Peace and joy abounds. Well, that’s the theory anyway. The reality, however, is often quite a different matter. [Read more…]

BLOG POST Autumn 2016

THE ‘NO MEDICATION’ MYTH

 

Back in the day, when I first started practicing psychotherapy, most psychological therapists considered psychoactive medication to be a ‘no-no’. That’s why, back then, most of us usually tried to persuade our clients not to take psychotropic drugs. However, that was never an easy thing to do. PillsThat’s because in those days it was popularly believed that there was a ‘pill for every ill’. [Read more…]

BLOG POST July/Aug 2016

MINDFULNESS – ANOTHER ‘FLAVOUR OF THE MONTH’?

 

Nowadays, you are a therapeutic nobody if you are not into ‘Mindfulness’. It is psychotherapy’s latest ‘miracle cure’. MindfulnessHowever, before you get too carried away, don’t forget that just like any other human enterprise, psychotherapy too is subject to the whims of fashion. Up until recently Cognitive Behavioural Therapy was the flavour of the month – now it’s so ‘last year’. These days, Mindfulness is the latest ‘must have’ therapy. Didn’t you know?  Are you ‘behind the curve’? Has Mindfulness passed you by? Don’t worry – in a year or two, therapy’s Fashionistas will all be into something else. You can catch up then. [Read more…]

BLOG POST May/June 2016

GETTING YOUR LIFE IN BALANCE

 

A very important psychologist called Albert Ellis, once noted how lots of people get themselves into quite a tizzy, indeed often into quite a panic, as they try to get all their jobs properly completed, all of their challenges resolved, all of their objectives reached. scalesAnd that’s just in the immediate, in the here-and-now. In the long-term, such restless people find themselves so continuously driven by life’s demands that they can never be still, never at rest, never take a real break. [Read more…]

BLOG POST – March/April 2016

COUNSELLING – PROFESSIONALS vs CHARLATANS:

Can the public easily tell who are properly qualified counsellors and psychotherapists and who are charlatans? charlatanSadly, the answer is a resounding ‘No’. Unfortunately, the Government has refused to do anything that might help weed out the fake practitioners. It seems that the government’s ‘anti-red tape’ policies are all about pruning the official rule books. They want fewer regulatory bodies; they certainly don’t want to create any new ones. That’s why there isn’t an official Therapists Registration Agency and why there isn’t any way of keeping out the quacks. There is no such thing as a properly vetted list of genuinely qualified counsellors and psychotherapists. Buyer beware! [Read more…]